When Helen Norris prepares to lead her GriefShare group each week, she doesn’t just show up with a workbook and a prayer. She’s already spent time with the material twice.
“I watch the videos ahead of time,” she says. “Actually, I watch them twice. Once to grieve privately, and the second time to prepare how I’ll lead.”
That rhythm helps her create a group environment where others feel seen, supported, and safe.
Preparing your heart before stepping into the room
As a grieving widow herself, Helen knows how easily emotions can rise—both for group participants and for leaders. She also knows the importance of being steady in the room. That’s why she prioritizes preparation outside of group time.
“Some of the sessions are heavy, especially the one on heaven and the one on suicide,” Helen shares. “I need to process my own emotions before I get there. That way, I’m not breaking down during the group.”
“I do my grieving at home. Then I can be fully present during the group session.”
It’s not about hiding emotions—it’s about creating space. Helen allows herself to feel deeply at home so she can hold space for others during the session.
Why preparation matters for leaders
Even the most experienced GriefShare leaders can find themselves caught off guard by a topic, a participant’s story, or their own emotional reaction to the material. Without preparation, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed or unsure how to respond in the moment.
That’s why Helen takes intentional steps before every session:
- Watch the video twice. Once to grieve, once to lead.
- Highlight key discussion points. Helen writes notes on areas where she thinks people might react strongly—or where thoughtful follow-up questions might help.
- Pray over the group. Helen asks God to help her lead with clarity, compassion, and calmness.
- Check the group’s emotional pace. “If something feels especially heavy, I try to bring in some levity with a smile or a lighter moment. Not to distract—but to remind them there’s still hope.”
Becoming a steady presence for your group
Helen’s goal isn’t to perform or to teach. It’s to be fully present. “The goal is for people to feel safe enough to open up,” she explains. “And they can’t do that if I’m struggling emotionally or caught off guard. That’s why preparation is so important.”
Her approach models GriefShare’s purpose: providing a consistent, compassionate space for grieving people to find healing.
And it works. Helen’s group continues to grow, not just in numbers but in depth. People share more openly. They support one another and return for a second and third time. And Helen leads them well, not because she’s detached, but because she’s emotionally prepared.
Want to lead with clarity and peace?
GriefShare isn’t about perfection or having all the answers. However, effective leadership does require preparation, both spiritually and emotionally.
By holding space to process emotions ahead of time, you can show up with a clear mind and an open heart, ready to serve others well.
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