Can you lead with confidence and compassion, especially when someone asks you a tough question during a GriefShare group—one you’re not sure how to answer? Every leader has been there, and here’s the good news: questions aren’t something to fear—they’re ministry opportunities. When participants ask questions, they’re expressing a need or deep concern. It’s a sacred moment. And it’s your opportunity to care, guide, and point them to the hope of Christ.
For this reason we designed GriefShare’s Common Questions Leaders Might Get to help you prepare for those moments. This resource will not overwhelm you. Instead it will equip you with grace-filled, biblical responses to some of the most common (and complex) questions group members may ask.
You don’t have to know it all
You don’t need to have every answer. Often, the most powerful thing you can do is listen with compassion, affirm someone’s struggle, and let people know they’re not alone.
Many participants feel comforted when they hear others in the group share similar experiences. When a question feels too personal or off-topic, follow up privately after the session. That one-on-one time creates space for encouragement, support, and prayer—without derailing the group.
Practical tips from the resource
The Common Questions guide provides examples of what participants might ask in each session, along with biblical and thoughtful responses. From early-session questions like “Is this normal?” to later-session questions like “Why did God let this happen?”—you’ll find insight and practical support.
Here are a few reminders from the guide:
- Acknowledge their pain first. Before offering answers, show empathy and affirm the difficulty of what they’re asking.
- Invite group input. When appropriate, ask if others have wondered the same thing. Their stories help others feel less alone.
- Balance understanding and hope. Let participants express their honest emotions, but gently guide them toward God’s comfort.
- Follow up personally. Especially when addressing anger, guilt, or fear, offer care and prayer outside the session.
These aren’t scripts to memorize. They’re tools to help you respond with humility, compassion, and confidence.
Invite your pastor to join the conversation
Week 10 (Questions for God) often brings deeper, faith-related questions. That is a great time to invite your pastor or another church leader to join your group and help guide the discussion.
To make this session meaningful:
- Prepare in advance. Invite participants a week in advance to write down their questions and bring them to the next session.
- Share questions with your pastor. Give them time to prepare thoughtful, biblical responses.
- Create a safe space. Remind your group that it’s okay to ask hard questions. God welcomes honesty.
This special session deepens faith and shows your church is a safe, compassionate place for spiritual growth.
You’re not alone in this
Leading GriefShare doesn’t mean having every theological or emotional answer ready—it means showing up, listening well, and pointing people to the One who does have the answers.
The Common Questions guide is here to support you—so you can lead with grace and peace. Every question is an opportunity for ministry, a chance to reflect Christ’s love in someone’s moment of pain.
Another Companion Resource: Is My Grief Normal?
For additional guidance on addressing the kinds of questions grieving people often ask, you can share or explore the book Is My Grief Normal? 51 Questions People Are Asking About Loss.
This short, easy-to-read book o3ffers compassionate, biblical answers to the most common questions about grief—perfect for participants who may be struggling between sessions or for leaders who want deeper insight as they guide their groups. It can also be a thoughtful gift for someone not yet ready to join a group but who’s searching for understanding and hope
Explore the Common Questions guide and other leader tools in the LeaderZone.
